Creating A New Tribe


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Written By, Crystal S. Kauffman

Congratulations on making it this far in your personal recovery and ever winding road to sobriety. Start planning a private celebration for you, because each and every new day is a wonderful milestone. Always acknowledge your personal milestones, as you keep moving forward and rebuilding you life.

Rebuild our Life

Take a free course and learn how to manage your money, while creating a stable environment for yourself. Cut out all the stress in your life, by eliminating the people who are causing your life to become messy and full of drama. This will help make your life peaceful, because you won’t have to deal with the toxic behavior anymore.

Find Your Tribe

Do these people talk negatively and it makes you feel depressed, due to things the people you love say? Have they created havoc in your life while you seem to just get hurt? If so, you don’t need this type of person in your life. Free yourself from the craziness and find your tribe, which will love you just the way you are. Try to make amends with your loved ones, if you can and spend time with them.

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Begin Rising Shattered Spirit


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Written By, Crystal S. Kauffman

Any form of abusive relationships will bring some heartbreaking and yet real storms in your life, because your lover is the very person abusing you. This type of marriage or relationship will completely shatter your inner spirit and break your mind, while guiding you towards major depression. Now, sex is nothing, conflict is constant, and you feel like you are not worth anything not even someone’s time. These toxic relationships steal your joy, peace of mind and security, and bring unnecessary drama and/or conflict in your life.

Putting Yourself First

Now, you are literally picking up each jagged little piece of your heart and you are trying to learn how to be a survivor. Recovery starts when you decide to stand up and stop the abuse in safe manner for yourself and your children, if needed. Keep the motivation for becoming a survivor, by remembering that your abuser will blame you for things that you are not doing like: cheating and lying. Yet, the abuser is the one who is taking your power away while causing you pain by: lying, and/or cheating.

I Don’t Deserve This

Mind games are the hardest part of the recovery as a survivor because you are stuck on trying to understand what happened? You are asking yourself, why did this person that you adore, so damn mean to you. They convince you that you deserve to be put down for your weight or whatever they think is bad or wrong with you. The abusive partner will place blame on you, because they have to make you the bad guy in every situation.

Focus On Fixing Yourself

However, why lay around wondering why you are not good enough for someone to care and love without the abuse or pain? Instead, start working on your self-esteem, by fixing the things that make you sad in your everyday life. Always focus on becoming a better version of yourself each new day and soon you will have the strength to walk away from the abuse. The survivor truly has a broken mind and spirit that causes depression and sadness in a person, which can lead to some really bad choices.

Planning a Safe Exit

The survivor of any type of abuse will mostly likely believe the abuser’s main lie, because they are groomed and controlled by their emotions. An abuser tends to isolate the victim during the relationship, so they gain their trust and cause issues with everyone else in the victim’s life. They may start conflict with the victim’s family and friends, which causes the victim to lose those personal connections. Survivor will reconnect with family and friends to create an exit plan, which will provide a safe way to leave.

Keep Moving Forward  

Get help and counseling now, because you are beautiful and your abuser did not care about you or your feelings. The abuser began tearing you down, taking your power, and breaking your spirit, as well as messing with your mind. You are a survivor, so hold your head up and take back your power by building your life without this person in it. Make sure you tell them to kick rocks and never allow them to return under any circumstance.

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Chase Recovery Like You Chased That Drug


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Unfortunately, you will be dealing with powerful and painful emotions as you walk on the journey toward recovery and freedom from the chains of addictions. Feel free to look up support groups and communities online and offline, but find the support you will need to face the demon’s of addiction. Start chasing recovery like you chased the drug of your choice and learn all about your personal triggers that cause you to want to get high. Discover ways to avoid these triggers and ways to remove toxic people from your life.   

Each new step will challenge you on how to understand the spiral effects of your own bad choices have made in your life. However, you must also learn how your addictions are tempted and what causes you to feed your addictions. Does something or someone cause painful emotions which you hide when getting high? Masking your feelings with the drug of your choice is not the answer, but facing these feeling will cause you pain yet dealing with them will also allow you to find a sense of peace or closure about the problem. 

Freedom from addiction and breaking the chains actually will challenge you to become a new creature, who is powerless until you submit to your own personal higher power or God. Never give up fighting for your own recovery and choose life full of love as well as joy. Chasing recovery is the bravest thing you can do, yet you will find the strength you thought you didn’t have during this process. Be proud of each step and hold your head up high, while you do all chase a new life that starts with chasing recovery daily just like you chased the drug you couldn’t live without. 

Make new memories with your loved ones and get the help you need to stay sober. Stay motivated and inspired, while spreading your message of recovery and redemption to others. Chat with me and soon we will offer more support resources. 

Chat On Facebook or Email with Princess Crystal if you need to talk. 

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Forgiving Yourself and Others (A Devotional)


Written By, Crystal S Kauffman

Have you struggled with forgiving someone, who has hurt you or abused you? Do you find yourself thinking about it a lot lately? If so, this is normal to feel, whenever someone you trust has intentionally hurt you. However, you must find a way to give your hurt and pain to the Lord, for he will release you of the burden of guilt. Then, he will help you learn how to forgive those, who have victimized you or someone you love.

            The first memory verse is: Acts 3:19…“Repent therefore and be converted, that your sins may be blotted out, so that times of refreshing may come from the presence of the Lord.” (KJV)

            As you recite this verse, remember that you must confess all of your sins against God and others. Once you ask him to forgive you for all of your sins, he is just and will erase all of your sins immediately. For we must spend time, learning exactly what forgiveness truly is, because it can hinder your spiritual growth. Honestly, forgiveness is ceasing to be angry over unacceptable behaviors that have affected you.

            By forgiving someone, you are not giving them your permission to repeat the behaviors that hurt you. Instead, you should recognize the feelings that you feel, since these emotions are only going to cause you pain. Be honest and ask for the forgiveness of others, once you have evaluated your role in the entire situation. This way, you can free yourself, from the burden of bitterness and anger that can lead to depression.  

            The second memory verse is 1 John 1:9…“If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” (KJV)

            Recite this verse, as you begin your transitional journey from being a victim to becoming a survivor. No matter what has happened in the past, you can fully overcome its negative effect on your life. However, you must forgive others also, for the pain and anguish or their behaviors or actions to stop. But, by allowing the offender to receive mercy, you are becoming worthy of God’s complete forgiveness. 

            No longer will you receive condemnation, instead you will find peace that passes all understanding. In that moment, you will feel the burden of your guilt start melt away as the anguish disappears. Suddenly, all of your past iniquities will be washed away and fully forgotten by your heavenly father. Therefore, you will become a new creature in Christ, who is totally blameless and spotless before God.

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The Past Does Not Define You


Written By, Crystal S. Kauffman

Lifestyle changes are hard and painful at first, but soon you will become stronger with each step you take. You are walking a new journey that will require you to push yourself beyond your personal comfort zone.

Embrace the strength that you will unleash with each new step you face, as you walk the path of recovery from the brutal snare of addiction. Each small victory will lead you to a life that is full of big triumphs daily. Hold your head up high, because you are winning the battle against your addictions and yourself.

Your addiction is not like your sister or your brother’s addiction, because it is tailor-made for you. As your becoming sober, you will be forced to decide how you will clean up the mess you created. Each day, you will find the courage to dream again, especially once you learn to believe in yourself again.

Many times, you will find that you are not missing the craziness that the demons of addiction brought to your life. Maybe you will forgive yourself for the bad choices you made. Only you can make your life manageable by starting to take each step that leads to a life filled with joy and peace.

Start taking each step daily as you begin your path to recovery and redemption. You won’t gain everyone’s forgiveness, but do your best and keep moving even when you have a setback or a delay. Keep going and you will learn new ways to cope with life’s disappointments.

Keep telling yourself, “Your Past Does Not Define You!”

Chat On Facebook or Email with Princess Crystal if you need to talk.

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Merry Christmas to My Recovery Friends


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By, Crystal S. Kauffman

This is a magical time of year for children who believe in Santa, but this time of year can be depressing or even sad for many recovering addicts. So many parents go into major debt, just trying to buy their children that latest new toy or gadget. Instead of focusing on the gifts you have given out this year. So, be sure to spend some one on one time with those special family members that you love like: your parents, significant other, or children.

Remind yourself of each step that you have taken to better yourself this year, while taking inventory your life. List the many different things, which you have learned this year as you became a better version of yourself. Take a moment to notice the things that you still need to work on, as well as the things that you need to let go of in this new year.

Allow yourself to feel a sense of pride, as you remember how far you have come since you began your personal journey of recovery. No one can take away your accomplishments or your joy….but you! So, Hold your head up and keep on rocking sobriety as you gain back all the things that you have lost throughout your active addiction.

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!

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Find 5 Positive Things to Tell Yourself Daily


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By, Crystal S. Kauffman

Each week, stop for a few moments to create a list of five positive things that are true about yourself or your character. Begin repeating these statements to yourself in the morning and repeat them as needed throughout the day. Especially, during the difficult moments when you begin feeling down about yourself. Start your list by writing a list of five honest, yet positive statements about yourself and your character.

Be Brutally Honest About Yourself

As you create a list of five positive things, you will need to be honest about your individual qualities. This way, you will know you are speaking the truth as you recite the five statements to yourself. Being honest with yourself will help you lear to identify positive qualities that you possess. These positive facts or honest qualities will begin to build up your self-esteem.

Repeat This List Many Times A Day

This newly created weekly list will help you build up your self- esteem, so write it down and be sure to write neatly. You will be displaying this completed list somewhere in your home to remind you to repeat the list many times a day. Furthermore, consider storing a copy of each new list on your smart phone, but be sure to use an app like Google Docs or Notes.

Use this weekly list to inspire you as you build your dreams!