The Past Does Not Define You


Written By, Crystal S. Kauffman

Lifestyle changes are hard and painful at first, but soon you will become stronger with each step you take. You are walking a new journey that will require you to push yourself beyond your personal comfort zone.

Embrace the strength that you will unleash with each new step you face, as you walk the path of recovery from the brutal snare of addiction. Each small victory will lead you to a life that is full of big triumphs daily. Hold your head up high, because you are winning the battle against your addictions and yourself.

Your addiction is not like your sister or your brother’s addiction, because it is tailor-made for you. As your becoming sober, you will be forced to decide how you will clean up the mess you created. Each day, you will find the courage to dream again, especially once you learn to believe in yourself again.

Many times, you will find that you are not missing the craziness that the demons of addiction brought to your life. Maybe you will forgive yourself for the bad choices you made. Only you can make your life manageable by starting to take each step that leads to a life filled with joy and peace.

Start taking each step daily as you begin your path to recovery and redemption. You won’t gain everyone’s forgiveness, but do your best and keep moving even when you have a setback or a delay. Keep going and you will learn new ways to cope with life’s disappointments.

Keep telling yourself, “Your Past Does Not Define You!”

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When Life Rains on You, Find the Rainbow


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By, Crystal S. Kauffman

Sometimes, life can seem like it does nothing but rain on you, whether it is your finances or your health. It will seem like a damn hurricane is brewing and your holding on for dear life. However, look past the blinding rain and you will see a beautiful rainbow forming in the distance. Stay focused on that rainbow and don’t give up! Each tiresome step will bring you so much closer to the goal that you have set for yourself.

Never let anyone tell you that you are weak or that you are giving up, because you are not doing things the way that they think you should. Honestly, they cannot see what you see, so keep your eyes wide open and keep focused on saving money or changing the way you eat. Whatever your goal is…go at it hard no matter how much rain comes at you because that rainbow is forming. So, focus and dig deep, because you can do anything that you have set your mind too!

Keep your eyes on the goal or rainbow that is ahead of you, but always be aware of distractions which will try to pull you away from your original goal. More rain will enter your life and you will feel defeated; yet don’t lose heart over the setbacks that you will definitely face. Instead, refocus and find that rainbow once again and keep striving to reach it. Before you know it, you will have reached your goal and the rain will have moved while leaving beautiful flowers in its path.

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Control Your Own Life


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By, Crystal S. Kauffman

During recovery or even in everyday life, you are going to learn quickly that you will only able to control your own situations and circumstances. Honestly, you cannot control the way anyone else chooses to treat you. You can choose to stay away from any person, who hurts you and does not change their behavior once you have discussed the issue. Save your energy and stay away from the craziness, while focusing on the positive things in your life that make you happy.

Controlling when people come to your home, work, or other places that you go can keep your anxiety level down. However, you can also tell visitors to text or call you before a visit, so you can decide if you want to actually have a visitor over at that time. Sometimes, you may just want to be alone because you feel grouchy and full of anxiety. Setting rules with your visitors will help you regain control over your life, while you focus on healing and meditation.

Furthermore, talk to a mentor on how to control your finances if you need help, because you will need to pay rent and electricity in a stable home. You may also have to pay for water, propane, and/or other necessities inside your home. Learning to control your finances will make you proud and give you a sense of freedom that is amazing after dealing with addiction. Therefore, take control of your finances and your life, so you can find the peace and happiness that you long for everyday.

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Stop Worrying and Count Each Blessing


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By, Crystal S. Kauffman

Are you constantly worrying about everything so much that you are now dealing with anxiety, which has required medications to stay calm? Does the medication make you feel off your game, which makes you doubt yourself in your career? It is easy for others to say stop worrying, because they are not wearing your shoes or living your life. However, I want to give a way to combat the negativity that consumes your mind and body whenever you spend precious energy worrying about stuff you can and cannot control.

I challenge you to join me in counting each blessing throughout the day and let’s see if we can combat this anxiety together. No matter what you believe, you can find blessings all throughout you’re day and night if you think about it. First, just waking up in the morning is a blessing; as well as having food to eat for breakfast, lunch, and dinner.  If you have a job, then that is another blessing and having a vehicle is another major blessing. Once you start looking and counting your blessings, you will notice that you have a lot of reasons to smile instead of frown.

No matter what you day holds, just count your blessings and focus on looking for new ones that are happening to you. You may have a job promotion, a raise in pay, or some other positive thing happen to you. Count all of those and you will notice your anxiety disappear and you will be smiling more, while others are dealing with severe anxiety. Then, you can inspire them to count their many blessings and you may even watch them smile again.

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Be True To Yourself!


By, Crystal S Kauffman

Never allow someone to tear you down or talk down to you, due to the mistakes you have made in the past or even recently. If you have tried to make amends, then you have done your part and you must let the situation go. Nothing you will do can change the outcome, unless the person agrees to forgive you for your transgressions. Stand tall and walk proud, because you are no longer chained to your addiction and you are fighting the good fight of sobriety.

There will be good days and really bad days ahead, but be true to your beliefs and to yourself…first above all else! You matter and you are loved, yet sometimes we lose the ability to see past our own mind which causes us to believe we are utterly alone. Thankfully, you are not alone in this fight and you have so many people ready to help you…whether in an online community or a local AA or NA support group.

Make new friends who are sober and walk away from the toxic so called friends and/or family who continue to use drugs. Above it all, be true to yourself and decide what your future will look like, since you are the captain of your beautiful ship called life. You may be bruised, broken, and shattered from the life you led before you put your addiction away. Take a moment to learn the lessons of your past and remember each lesson, as you guide your ship called LIFE into the future.

Start the healing process today; by leaning on your divine creator…no matter if you believe in God or a Higher Power! Never ever give up on yourself, because you deserve happiness and peace everyday of your life. Take time to heal yourself by talking to a counselor and be sure to check out your mental health as well. Keep your mind healthy and busy, while you learn to navigate the rough waters of sobriety.

If you have kids or a wife, please take time to yourself and this will help you become stronger and more adapt to handling the everyday stresses. If you need to enter a rehab center, please do this immediately so you can start the healing process now. Your family deserves to be safe with you and they do not need to be hurt because you are hurting. Be true to yourself and your family, by doing all that you can to stay sober while healing yourself.

Stay Strong!!!

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The Final Choice Is Yours


By, Crystal S. Kauffman 

Are you struggling with thoughts of using drugs, while you are in recovery? Do you really believe that you can do it one and lay it down again? Did you know can be clean for several years and still struggle with thoughts of using the drug of your choice?

Honestly, as a recovering addict you cannot just walk away after using again, because you will want more. Actually, your lying to yourself, if you believe that you can control the monster or demon inside of you. However, the brutal truth that you must tell yourself that you are an addict and you cannot ever use your drug of choice again. 

Relapsing even one time, can lead to your immediate death or destroy the progress that you have made in recovery so far. No matter what anyone says, the choice is yours and only you will face the temptation of wanting use drugs again.

During this time, you may feel weak or overwhelmed with the constant nagging inside your mind that you must face alone.  Take time to identify the people, places, and things that are triggers and stay away from them at all times.  Unfortunately, you need to keep your distance from people who use drugs, especially the ones that are using your drug of choice.

After some time in recovery, you will have enough strength to face your own monsters or demons that are screaming in your head. It is s up to you to make the choice that is best for you and your situation. Nothing in the world is worth losing your sobriety over, so guard your mind against all forms of temptations.

are never the answer, but asking for help from a trusted loved one or a friend who can actually help you stay on track. If you are in recovery, then let me say I am proud of the progress you have made so far. Keep your head held high and know that your beautiful, as you keep moving forward toward your dreams or goals.  

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(I am not a licensed therapist. Based on personal knowledge.)

No Matter What…Love Yourself!


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So many times, people call you selfish or greedy when you try to look out for yourself. However, the first step to loving yourself is finally learning to think about yourself and your needs above all others. Anyone who is above the age of eighteen can look out for themselves. Everybody wants something from you and before you know it, you are the one who is drained and depressed. Stop giving them the power to hurt you, by making them take responsibility for their own self.

Take time to make yourself happy, by choosing to do what you want to do like: buy a new outfit, go on an outing, or indulge yourself by learning a fun new dance. I mean come on, if they are not children, then why should you give them the power to take away your happiness. Make time to caress your mind and your soul, as well as tickle your funny bone every time you get a chance. You’re not greedy; instead you are setting boundaries and letting people know exactly what you will take from them.

Yeah, you may be the bad guy for the day or week, but you will find a sense of peace once people know that they can no longer use you anymore. Honestly, every time you stand up to a person, you actually love yourself more with each line you draw in the sand. So, lift your voice and say, “NO” as many times as you have to, in order to gain a life that has peace and solitude from the craziness. Learn to love yourself, because no one will ever love you, if you don’t first find reasons to love yourself.

©2019, Crystal S. Kauffman

PS: I am not a Licensed Therapist! Based on Personal Experience.