Don’t Ring That Bell


My Uncle once told me that, “Sometimes our words ring a bell when we speak them out loud!”

An unbearable amount of pain can come from someone words, especially when they can literally cut a person’s heart to pieces. Sometimes, people are dealing with things that you may not know about, so be kind when you speak. Lately, I have been trying to watch my own mouth and not say mean things to anyone, since I have been trying to get right with God. However, some days I fail too and my anger erupts like a volcano and I am saying stuff I completely regret.

Do not say something if you don’t mean it, since not everyone will forgive you for the mean things you have said. Everyone can be very mean with their words, but you must change the way you react when you are angry at a person. Try to be quiet and say a prayer, whenever someone seems to be pushing all the right buttons and your anger is swelling. Take a deep breath or listen to your favorite music, which may help you calm down.

Don’t say something that you cannot take back, just because you are angry and someone is relentless and is constantly pushing you to your limit. The anger swells like the lava in a volcano and before long you are spewing venom from your lips. Instead, offer a prayer of forgiveness and try to get away from the person who brings the contempt out of you. Honestly, don’t let your anger cause you to say things that you will one day end up regretting for the rest of your life.

I always try to remember what my Uncle always said when he was alive, “Don’t Ring That Bell, Christy!”

©2019, Crystal S. Kauffman

PS: I am not a Licensed Therapist! Based on Personal Experience

Forgiving Ourselves and Others


By, Crystal S. Kauffman, Staff Writer

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Have you struggled with forgiving someone who has hurt you or abused you? Do you find yourself thinking about it a lot lately? If so, this is normal to feel whenever someone you trust has intentionally hurt you. However, you must find a way to give your hurt and pain to the Lord, for he will release you of the burden of guilt. Then, he will help you learn how to forgive those who have victimized you or someone you love.

The first memory verse is: Acts 3:19, “Repent therefore and be converted, that your sins may be blotted out, so that times of refreshing may come from the presence of the Lord.”(KJV)

As you recite this verse, remember that you must confess all of your sins against God and others. Once you ask him to forgive you for all of your sins, he is just and will erase all of your sins immediately. For we must spend time, learning exactly what forgiveness truly is, because it can hinder your spiritual growth. Honestly, forgiveness is ceasing to be angry over unacceptable behaviors that have affected you.

By forgiving someone, you are not giving them your permission to repeat the behaviors that hurt you. Instead, you should recognize the feelings that you feel, since these emotions are only going to cause you pain. Be honest and ask for the forgiveness of others, once you have evaluated your role in the entire situation. This way, you can free yourself, from the burden of bitterness and anger that can lead to depression.

The second memory verse is 1 John 1:9, “If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.”(KJV)

Recite this verse, as you begin your transitional journey from being a victim to becoming a survivor. No matter what has happened in the past, you can fully overcome its negative effect on your life. However, you must forgive others also, for the pain and anguish or their behaviors or actions to stop. But, by allowing the offender to receive mercy, you are becoming worthy of God’s complete forgiveness.

No longer will you receive condemnation, instead you will find peace that passes all understanding. In that moment, you will feel the burden of your guilt start melt away as the anguish disappears. Suddenly, all of your past iniquities will be washed away and fully forgotten by your heavenly father. Therefore, you will become a new creature in Christ, who is totally blameless and spotless before God.

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Who is Author Crystal S. Kauffman?


Who is Author Crystal S. Kauffman?

 Crystal’s Corner

=Author CSK 2015-bAuthor Crystal S. Kauffman (Imogen Rayne) is her online pen name since 1995, when she first adopted it. She enjoys spending time with her husband, her mother, my dogs, and my kitties. Mrs. Kauffman cherishes every moment she gets with her two beautiful children, who now following their own dreams. Mrs. Kauffman inspired each child to develop their talents with hard work. She taught them to use their imagination and create their own art. She knows that her teens have the most beautiful souls and they are her inspiration for writing. In addition, she lives in beautiful Jacksonville, FL. with her family. She is a twelve year cervical cancer stage 2B survivor; who is an advocate to get people talking about GYN Cancers. She also cares about many other causes, so keep checking my website/blog to see what I am up too.

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Mrs. Crystal S. Kauffman writes something every day and keeping up her studies. She writes lyrics for songs, poetry, and short stories that are generally featured on her blog. She really enjoys studying ancient history, particularly the Bible era, which fascinates me. Sometimes, Mrs. Kauffman will write articles about news or whatever pops in her mind. She enjoys writing devotionals and has articles for sale as web content. Mrs. Kauffman is skilled in communications and she teaches new writers how to develop their story. Contact Author Crystal S. Kauffman for quotes by email: laughatcancer@gmail.com

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Advice Corner

I would like to teach others that there is an author in everyone. Everybody has a story to tell. My best advice for new writers is to just writing, but make a plan first. The story will lead you and you may touch someone with your words. The new writer will find out this is a journey of blood, sweat, and tears. However, when someone reads your book, you will still be humbled. Take a chance and show others all about your story or write an awesome fictional tale.

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For sixteen years, I have studied all aspects of writing and encourage others to use their skills or Talents given by God. She writes informational articles on most standard topics, how-to-articles, short stories for children, essays for college, and upcoming novels. My education consists of studying at the Institute of Writing for Children and Teenagers in 2006, University of Phoenix: Associate Degree in 2008, Bachelor in Communications in 2011. I enjoy helping to teaching people to learn how to express themselves through communication on the internet. I have published a song, poetry collection, and a novel…working on more! I love to do freelance projects, so on your next writing project…Contact Author Crystal S. Kauffman

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New Novel Corner:

Ana’s Stand’s by, Crystal S. Kauffman

Anas Stand Front CoverLet Ana inspire you to take your own stand against bullies, school violence, and violence period. This book is perfect for teens and adults. One Click Your Copy Today. READ Ana’s Stand ON KINDLE UNLIMITED! Follow this young girl’s journey to freedom from persecution. Crystal S. Kauffman is a new author, so tell me what you think on my reviews. This book is Christian Fiction, Drama, Urban Fiction, Romance, Inspirational, and Crime Fiction. This book gives a glimpse inside the violence that teens deal with everyday. See what your children maybe dealing with whenever they are at school. The school bullies, racists, and other types peer intimidations are not acceptable. Let Ana inspire you or your teen to stand up in your community and make a difference! Be the change you want to see and that one ripple you will make shall become a flowing river.

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Please take moment to share with your friends. This book is perfect for any home, school, or public libraries. I am looking for reviews as well, so contact me to review this amazing book. Thank you ZitrO Publications for taking a chance on publish my novel and allowing people to read it. If you have not got your copy yet, then take a moment to One Click Your Book Now!

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Ana’s Stand: Ranked #1 is Christian Fiction


Ana’s Stand Ranked #1 By Kindle In Christian Fiction!

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On Wednesday, I was humbled when I learned that Ana’s Stand was ranked #1 in Christian and #1 for young girls/women. I was thrilled that after my publisher, ZitrO Productions held a free books for one day promotion. Other authors in our publication family were also able to Rank #1 in their individual genre. 

I was humbled when I signed on today and my Kindle account stated that I was ranked #66 in Christian Fiction. In addition, I was ranked #82 in African American Fiction. I have not looked tonight, but I know Ana’s courageous story will touch so many hearts. This novel was especially written preteens, teens, young adults, and adults.

I hope Ana will inspire you to take a stand in your own community! I feel blessed to have reached #1, but it never would of happened without my readers who have bought the book. Take a moment to leave an honest review. I still need a STREET TEAM to help with promotions online and offline, so If you interested in helping contact me on Facebook or through this blog. 

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 About Ana’s Stand:

This is an inspirational yet dramatic story about Ana, an African American teenage girl, who took a stand against school violence. Ana and her best friend Nikki felt completely helpless against the prejudice, racism, and bigotry that they were forced to endure. The teenagers reached out for help to stop the school violence, but the violence followed them home. Ana felt so helpless after she almost lost her best friend that day, as well as dealing with the emotional pain and the aftermath. Ana decided to take a stand against school violence in her school. Follow her journey to making a difference.

Let Ana inspire you to make your own stand against school violence!

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Parents Stop Breaking Your Teenager’s Spirit


teen dep. quoteParents stop berating and yelling at your teenager, because you are destroying your child’s self-esteem more harm. Don’t curse at your teenager, instead give the teenager respect and you will find that they will begin to respect you as well. Be clear in your communication when saying yes and no, this way you are not sending mixed signals to your teen. Sometimes, you have to step back as parent, while encouraging your teenager to practice working on their talents and gifts that God gave them.

Let them know that you love them just the way they are and that they do not have change anything. Stop having power struggles with your teenager and you will see a difference in the way that they will respond to you. Don’t call them degrading names or compare them to their father or their mother in a negative way, since this can make the teenager feel worthless. Never say negative things about their mother or father, whether absent or not.

This behavior by parents can cause the teenager to turn to drugs or alcohol abuse. Teenagers with low self-esteem will act out and self-medicate to escape the mental pain that they feel.  Unfortunately, one mistake can cause a landslide of issues like: teen pregnancy, drug use, trouble with the law, and other bad behavior. Don’t expect to see a change in your teenager’s behavior, until you begin to change the way that you respond to them.

Pray for your children and with your teenagers, while speaking blessings and positive things over them. Be sure to take them to a Bible believing church, which will help build the teenager’s character as they grow into an adult. However, to see a change in your teenager, you must first change yourself and realize that you were once a teenager yourself. Was life hard for you as a teenager and did you have power struggles with your parents as well?

Teenagers can become anyone that they want to become, yet they must work hard to achieve the goals that they have set for themselves. As a parent, you should be a cheerleader and the disciplinarian at the same time. Teenagers need boundaries that they can follow and they need immediate consequences whenever they step out of line. Therefore, take this time to change the way that you respond to your teenager’s achievements and misbehaviors.

 

 

Blanket of Hope Project 2013


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Blankets of Hope 2013

By Crystal S. Kauffman

This Christmas, help me spread the joy of Christmas cheer to the patients in local nursing, which has many patients. Some patients have no family and would enjoy receiving the small gifts from someone. There are many ways you can help like you can donate signed Christmas cards, small gifts and/or, throw blankets. Items must be donated by Dec. 20, 2013, in order for the nursing home to get them before Christmas Day

Throw Blankets

The blankets are desperately needed, because the patients tend to get the chills and a fleece throw blanket would be perfect on warming the up. The must be a typical sized throw blanket, so it is easy for the patient to carry with them. The blanket will represent all of the people out here thinking about them during the holidays. Please feel free to email me for my address.

Christmas Cards

The Christmas cards should be signed with your family’s name or you may allow everyone to sign it. Children can make homemade cards or they can draw pictures. I am hoping to get enough things to give out to each patient there. Additionally, write Patient on the front and Christmas on the back of the envelope. These cards seem to brighten the patient’s day and are generally inexpensive, since money is tight in this economy.

Small Gifts

The patients love getting small gifts like figurines of any kind. I usually go to the dollar store and get some from there for cheap, but this year I cannot afford to buy them myself. So, if you would like to volunteer and help me gather up some cute small figurines like angels. Most patients love getting an angel for Christmas with a card and a blanket. This shows that there are people out in the world who do care about them, even if they have no family coming to see them.

Volunteering

You can help by donating any of these items. Patients will be thrilled and feel blessed to receive anything that you can donate. Without the kind donations of others helping, the nursing home cannot possibly give something to all of the patients. Let’s make a difference together by bringing a little love and cheer.

Collecting Donations

Currently, we have until Dec. 20th, 2013, in order to collect the donations needed to make this a day that the patients will remember. Please consider helping me bring a little joy into the life of each patient that will receive the gifts on Christmas 2013. This Christmas can be brighter and full of hope, by giving the patient something special that they can use every day.

Care Packages

Other ways you can help is gathering up shoe boxes wrapped and marked male or female. These shoe boxes should be full of personal stuff like deodorant, toothpaste, toothbrush, powder, shaving supplies, brush or comb, body lotion, perfume or cologne, or other items they may need. If you can help, please contact me by email for more information about this project.

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The Laugh at Cancer Support Community is sponsoring this project, but we are not a non-profit. We just care about those who are stuck in a nursing home or hospital during Christmas time and would like the patients to know someone does care. Thank you to all who will be taking the time help with this Blankets of Hope project. Together we can make a difference!

My Email

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