Change is Hard, But it is Necessary!


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By, Crystal S. Kauffman

Many times in your life, you will need to evaluate the people who are in your life and their actual value to your life. You will need to ask yourself some important questions about their true character, before you hang out with them for even a moment.Remember, cut ties with any family and friends who are absolutely toxic to your recovery. However, some people are dangerous to your head and you need to know who they are.

These type of people will literally drain every ounce your joy and happiness, because they refuse to get help for their own mental issues. These people tend to be negative and mean, especially when you have good news Unfortunately, they will make you feel like you cannot do nothing right, because they will say negative things about you to your face. The disrespect is constant and tiresome, but you try to overlook these negative qualities because you love them.

Honestly, the pain of letting go, actually hurts less than to stay and endure this type of mental abuse from anyone around you. You may think you need someone, but you don’t need to be bullied in today’s modern society. Honestly, there is cell phone applications for all that you may need: from shopping for groceries, buying restaurant dinners or fast food, clothes, household items, delivery, and rides as needed.

Never allow someone to talk to you that way and always look out for yourself, because no person will ever love you like you love yourself, Don’t give a negative person a single second of your time, because you will end up letting their words enter your head. Don’t spend a second too long, wondering what is wrong with you because of the things these type of people say to you. Truth is, there is nothing wrong with you, they just don’t respect or value you as a person,

So, with that said, identify these people immediately and stop allowing them to enter your life in any type of way. Ask yourself about how a person makes you feel, whenever they talk to you or when they are hanging with you? Only keep the positive people around you, because you will find encouragement and wisdom from them. Now, take inventory of your loved ones today and change the narrative of your story from a negative to positive.

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It’s Not the Situation, But How You React That Matters


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By, Crystal S. Kauffman

Many times people will take you wrong whether over texting or even face to face, because of how they perceive what you are saying. Unfortunately, you can’t change the way someone reacts to your communications or actions. You can control how you react to anything that they say to you or how they act toward you. Don’t participate in their craziness, by just not talking to them or quickly walking away from the situation.

Never allow someone to ruin your peace, because they have misunderstood what you have texted them or have spoken to them. The negativity will destroy you and cause you to second guess who you are, because they have to see you as the bad guy. Perception is a killer of relationships, but you can try to help them understand but most of the time they won’t listen. So, let that shit go, walk away and keep moving because their opinion means nothing to you and your life.

If they are your partner, take a break and then try to communicate again but sometimes it is just not worth the damn battle. They may get stuck it one train of thought, which becomes a thorn in the relationship and it may grow into a divider that you cannot climb over. Suck it up, keep focused on your goals and don’t react to the petty comments and the bullshit that they will throw at you. Be real and know that you did your best, in order to convey your thoughts, but it was perceived wrong and you cannot change anyone but you!

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When Life Rains on You, Find the Rainbow


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By, Crystal S. Kauffman

Sometimes, life can seem like it does nothing but rain on you, whether it is your finances or your health. It will seem like a damn hurricane is brewing and your holding on for dear life. However, look past the blinding rain and you will see a beautiful rainbow forming in the distance. Stay focused on that rainbow and don’t give up! Each tiresome step will bring you so much closer to the goal that you have set for yourself.

Never let anyone tell you that you are weak or that you are giving up, because you are not doing things the way that they think you should. Honestly, they cannot see what you see, so keep your eyes wide open and keep focused on saving money or changing the way you eat. Whatever your goal is…go at it hard no matter how much rain comes at you because that rainbow is forming. So, focus and dig deep, because you can do anything that you have set your mind too!

Keep your eyes on the goal or rainbow that is ahead of you, but always be aware of distractions which will try to pull you away from your original goal. More rain will enter your life and you will feel defeated; yet don’t lose heart over the setbacks that you will definitely face. Instead, refocus and find that rainbow once again and keep striving to reach it. Before you know it, you will have reached your goal and the rain will have moved while leaving beautiful flowers in its path.

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Build A Life That You Love


By, Crystal S. Kauffman

Changing your life can be extremely difficult with the many different temptations around you. Most of the time, you are far away from the temptation, but sometimes it can be right in your face. This temptation can actually be in the form of a person, who just happened to dropped by to visit you after months or years of not communicating.

Right then, you must decide how you will handle this blast from your past. Will you choose the easy way out, which is to give into temptation? However, you could also visit for a few moments and then politely excuse yourself from the nerve racking situation. Only, you can choose what you will do when you face certain daily temptations.

Be sure to keep your support system on speed dial, because giving in to temptation is not worth the amount of guilt that you will face after your relapse. Stay completely away from circumstances and situations that will challenge your strength, while adding new things that completely inspire you. Start by creating a life that makes it easier for you to remain sober, because you are doing things that you enjoy despite the degree of temptation.

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Spread Positive Seeds


By, Crystal S. Kauffman-Amon

Sometimes, when I meet a person for the first time, I literally will have to get away from this person as fast as I can. I can just feel their negative energy pouring off of them before they even say a word to me. Immediately, these negative people will have this defeated look that seems to stay with them throughout the time that you are around them.

It gets worse, whenever they talk because they seem full on negative comments or contradictions as they talk. Nothing is ever good enough for them, since life has always been terrible for them and they choose to remain in addiction. However, they don’t realize that they are giving power to the negative energy and words, by planting seeds that will grow.

Instead, be a person who plants positive seeds and spread positive energy everywhere you go throughout your day. There will be disappointments, but don’t dwell on them and become negative or bitter. Take what you have learned and apply it to the next adventure that you plan to take, whether it is a new school or a new job.

Remember, setbacks are temporary and designed to make you feel like a failure, but learn from that setback and make the next moment your comeback. Spread those positive seeds, by helping others who are new in recovery and may need a shoulder to lean on or a friend to help them in their moment of weakness.      

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(I am not a licensed therapist. Based on personal knowledge.)

The Final Choice Is Yours


By, Crystal S. Kauffman 

Are you struggling with thoughts of using drugs, while you are in recovery? Do you really believe that you can do it one and lay it down again? Did you know can be clean for several years and still struggle with thoughts of using the drug of your choice?

Honestly, as a recovering addict you cannot just walk away after using again, because you will want more. Actually, your lying to yourself, if you believe that you can control the monster or demon inside of you. However, the brutal truth that you must tell yourself that you are an addict and you cannot ever use your drug of choice again. 

Relapsing even one time, can lead to your immediate death or destroy the progress that you have made in recovery so far. No matter what anyone says, the choice is yours and only you will face the temptation of wanting use drugs again.

During this time, you may feel weak or overwhelmed with the constant nagging inside your mind that you must face alone.  Take time to identify the people, places, and things that are triggers and stay away from them at all times.  Unfortunately, you need to keep your distance from people who use drugs, especially the ones that are using your drug of choice.

After some time in recovery, you will have enough strength to face your own monsters or demons that are screaming in your head. It is s up to you to make the choice that is best for you and your situation. Nothing in the world is worth losing your sobriety over, so guard your mind against all forms of temptations.

are never the answer, but asking for help from a trusted loved one or a friend who can actually help you stay on track. If you are in recovery, then let me say I am proud of the progress you have made so far. Keep your head held high and know that your beautiful, as you keep moving forward toward your dreams or goals.  

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(I am not a licensed therapist. Based on personal knowledge.)

Celebrate Your Sobriety


By, Crystal S. Kauffman

Becoming sober is a difficult thing for a person who is living with and feeding their addition. Some people count the days and months that they have been in recovery. Be proud of making it to recovery, because many actually don’t make it to getting sober. You should celebrate you recovery in a way that feels right to you.

Every month, begin planning a small celebration on your sober anniversary. Ask your healthy friends and family to join you in honoring your choice to remain sober. Your anniversary night could be a quiet dinner or going to the movies. Do something you never did while living in addiction, which could be going bowling or a day at the beach.

Just do something for yourself like buying a new outfit or shoes. Try to spend just $20 toward yourself and buy yourself a reward for staying strong. Celebrating each small victory that you achieve and be proud of your progress. Rewarding yourself can help you stay focused and sober.

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(I am not a licensed therapist. Based on personal experience.)