Be True To Yourself!


By, Crystal S Kauffman

Never allow someone to tear you down or talk down to you, due to the mistakes you have made in the past or even recently. If you have tried to make amends, then you have done your part and you must let the situation go. Nothing you will do can change the outcome, unless the person agrees to forgive you for your transgressions. Stand tall and walk proud, because you are no longer chained to your addiction and you are fighting the good fight of sobriety.

There will be good days and really bad days ahead, but be true to your beliefs and to yourself…first above all else! You matter and you are loved, yet sometimes we lose the ability to see past our own mind which causes us to believe we are utterly alone. Thankfully, you are not alone in this fight and you have so many people ready to help you…whether in an online community or a local AA or NA support group.

Make new friends who are sober and walk away from the toxic so called friends and/or family who continue to use drugs. Above it all, be true to yourself and decide what your future will look like, since you are the captain of your beautiful ship called life. You may be bruised, broken, and shattered from the life you led before you put your addiction away. Take a moment to learn the lessons of your past and remember each lesson, as you guide your ship called LIFE into the future.

Start the healing process today; by leaning on your divine creator…no matter if you believe in God or a Higher Power! Never ever give up on yourself, because you deserve happiness and peace everyday of your life. Take time to heal yourself by talking to a counselor and be sure to check out your mental health as well. Keep your mind healthy and busy, while you learn to navigate the rough waters of sobriety.

If you have kids or a wife, please take time to yourself and this will help you become stronger and more adapt to handling the everyday stresses. If you need to enter a rehab center, please do this immediately so you can start the healing process now. Your family deserves to be safe with you and they do not need to be hurt because you are hurting. Be true to yourself and your family, by doing all that you can to stay sober while healing yourself.

Stay Strong!!!

Copyright 2019

You Can be Redeemed!


By, Crystal S Kauffman

Are you struggling with guilt because of your past addictions? Do you feel like after all you did that no one can honestly love or care about you? Well, no matter how far you were ensnared in addiction, you can be redeemed but you must try to make amends to those you hurt. As long as making amends will not cause more hurt to you or others, you must try to ask for forgiveness and move forward.

Don’t get hung up on your guilt, since all that will do is give you a reason to step backwards and you may die with the next hit or shot. Also, work hard to help those around you in ways that you are able, but don’t let someone else’s problem become your problem. Making bad choices will cost your recovery, so try to make better decisions throughout each day. Call a trusted friend and ask their advice whenever you are unsure of what choice to make.

As you begin taking steps to make amends in your life, you will find that your guilt will no longer be such a heavy burden for you to bear. Remember to just breathe and keep moving forward as you reclaim all that you lost in addiction and more. Go to counseling and AA or NA meetings to learn coping skills that will help you deal with the different emotions that you will feel in recovery. Remember, be humble and just focus on making it through each moment, so you can take it it one day at a time.

Copyright 2019

One Moment at a Time…


By, Crystal S. Kauffman

In recovery, I hear everyone say take it “One Day at a Time”, but the truth is that you must make it through each moment first. There are 60 minutes within an hour and you must make it through 24 hours each day. My personal belief is that you must make it “One Moment at a Time”, because this is truly the only way you will make it through the day.

Especially, when you choose to enter recovery and take control of your life again. No matter how addiction has grabbed you, be willing to face the ugly truth and take personal inventory of your life.

The first step, is to keep you mind busy, because if all you do is sit around and think about all the mistakes you made. You will lose any ground you have gained in your recovery and begin self destructing again.

Next step, get away from everyone who is toxic to you like friends and family who are still using drugs or using you. Take time to yourself and evaluate who lifts you and who tears you down.

This this time to get real with yourself and decide does your life matter? Find a support group or rehab center to learn coping skills and ways to combat your cravings. You got this, but you have to truly want to be free from addiction.

Copyrighted 2019

Don’t Ring That Bell


My Uncle once told me that, “Sometimes our words ring a bell when we speak them out loud!”

An unbearable amount of pain can come from someone words, especially when they can literally cut a person’s heart to pieces. Sometimes, people are dealing with things that you may not know about, so be kind when you speak. Lately, I have been trying to watch my own mouth and not say mean things to anyone, since I have been trying to get right with God. However, some days I fail too and my anger erupts like a volcano and I am saying stuff I completely regret.

Do not say something if you don’t mean it, since not everyone will forgive you for the mean things you have said. Everyone can be very mean with their words, but you must change the way you react when you are angry at a person. Try to be quiet and say a prayer, whenever someone seems to be pushing all the right buttons and your anger is swelling. Take a deep breath or listen to your favorite music, which may help you calm down.

Don’t say something that you cannot take back, just because you are angry and someone is relentless and is constantly pushing you to your limit. The anger swells like the lava in a volcano and before long you are spewing venom from your lips. Instead, offer a prayer of forgiveness and try to get away from the person who brings the contempt out of you. Honestly, don’t let your anger cause you to say things that you will one day end up regretting for the rest of your life.

I always try to remember what my Uncle always said when he was alive, “Don’t Ring That Bell, Christy!”

©2019, Crystal S. Kauffman

PS: I am not a Licensed Therapist! Based on Personal Experience

Coping With New Sobriety


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Congratulations on successfully escaping your addiction and joining thousands of others who are on the road to recovery. However, rejoining society after a stint in rehab, jail, or self-imposed isolation can be very difficult at times. Everywhere you turn, you will see something that reminds you of your time spent in the grip of your addiction. Just breathe throughout each temptation and keep moving forward, while reminding yourself that you don’t live there anymore.

Never allow yourself to become overwhelmed by the temptation you will face in society, instead let it empower you. Walk away and smile, because you have just won another huge victory in your personal recovery! You may feel alone or like you have lost everyone, but the truth is you have gained yourself throughout the storm of addiction and that is more valuable than 100 fake friends. Make new friends who can encourage you whenever you feel weak, especially if you do not have a sponsor through your rehab or AA program.

You will run into the people that you used with, but you must remind yourself that they were never your friend in the first place. Always remember that they used you to feed their addiction too, by making sure you stayed hooked on whatever substance you used and they probably pushed you to share. Ask yourself, have you heard from them since you started your journey to become sober? Have they even bothered to call and check up on you or have they just distanced themselves from you?

Don’t give into temptation because you run in to an old so-called friends that still uses and asks if you want to get high or drunk. Temptation is all around you when you are trying to avoid alcohol, because of the television commercials and stores you visit every day. You must cling to your higher power and just breathe through it and get away from the situation as soon as you can. One day, the temptation will not be as strong; instead you will be able to handle it without falling apart inside.   

Stay away from the old places you used to frequent where the dealers hang out, even if it is your work place or the neighborhood store. Do not be afraid to change your entire routine or get a new job, if you have to in order to remain sober and in recovery. You did whatever it took to get high or drunk, now dig deep and do what you got to do to stay clean. Raise your head high and be proud of yourself, because you are learning how to cope with and beat your addiction…one day at a time!

@2019, Crystal S. Kauffman

PS: I am not a Licensed Therapist! Based on my Personal Experience.

Create a Blessing’s Jar


A blessing’s jar is a neat little way to remind yourself of the many daily blessings that you have received each day. This is a unique way to count your blessings, as you add little pieces of paper to a jar that have your blessing written on it. All you need for this project is a large empty jar, post-it-note paper or small pocket notebook, and a pen. Then, set aside a few moments each night before bed to write down the good things or blessings that you have received each day.  

Sometimes, you will need a little reminder of all the good things that has happened throughout your long day. Especially, when the good things tend to be overshadowed by stressful or bad things we deal within life. We tend to ponder on the bad things quicker than we remember the good things that happen to us like: a visit from an old friend, a boss recognizes your hard work on a project, and/or a surprise date with your partner.

So with that said, take time to write down all of your blessings and place them in your very own blessings jar. You can decorate your jar anyway that you want, as well as choose any jar that you may want to use.  This is a great project for Sunday school classes or a fun project for families to do together during the weekend. I hope you enjoy counting your blessings as much as I do and decorating your jar the way you want it to be.   

(c) 2019, Crystal S. Kauffman

On The Road to Recovery


Ok, everything you; once loved or cared about is gone! Are you going to lay in bed and cry, while the rest of the world moves on without you? Sometimes, through our bad choices in life we become toxic to others and they decide to remove themselves from our lives to save their own sanity, but that doesn’t mean that they don’t love you anymore.

It just means, you need to focus on making better choices and rebuilding a lifestyle that others can accept. Start, by figuring out “WHO YOU TRULY ARE!” underneath the pain and shame, that covers your heart like a thick winter coat. You have you to peel back each layer of guilt, in order to find the frightened child that you abandoned so long ago.

Now, you will need to make two notebooks with simple section dividers and papers. Make each each notebook a different color and keep them near your sitting area, because you will be writing in them a lot. Look in your kitchen cabinet for a simple coffee cup to place a couple pens in, just in case you have a thought and you need to find a pen quickly.

Start, by setting daily goals in one notebook like: remembering to take your medicine or cleaning your house. Write stuff that can be achieved from the time that the sun rises in the morning until the sun sets in the evening. Next, you will create weekly goals, monthly goals, and yearly goals. Then, use your second notebook to begin in journaling your thoughts like in a journal or diary.

Unfortunately, you have to accept that your life has violently changed and that it will never be the same as it was. Your spouse or children may never comeback, but if you feel lonely and depressed all the time. Look into adopting a pet from a local shelter that needs you, but are you a cat or a dog person. Yes, there is a major difference, since a cat requires little care and a dog requires constant supervision.

However, you must be a responsible person to own a pet, because they are like children and do require daily care. You can go to an Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) or (NA) Narcotic Anonymous meetings or church, in order to find friends that will support you on your journey to recovery. Don’t discouraged if you fail, because your loved one will notice that you are at least out there trying to change.

Whatever you do, just do ii! The hardest step is the first one and each step gets easier as long as you are moving. Find out what your problem and seek treatment, while creating new friends and new places to hang out. Don’t go back to what broke you and don’t invite more drama into your life.

(c) 2019, Crystal S. Kauffman

PS: I am not a Licensed Therapist! Based on my Personal Experience.