Begin Rising Shattered Spirit


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Written By, Crystal S. Kauffman

Any form of abusive relationships will bring some heartbreaking and yet real storms in your life, because your lover is the very person abusing you. This type of marriage or relationship will completely shatter your inner spirit and break your mind, while guiding you towards major depression. Now, sex is nothing, conflict is constant, and you feel like you are not worth anything not even someone’s time. These toxic relationships steal your joy, peace of mind and security, and bring unnecessary drama and/or conflict in your life.

Putting Yourself First

Now, you are literally picking up each jagged little piece of your heart and you are trying to learn how to be a survivor. Recovery starts when you decide to stand up and stop the abuse in safe manner for yourself and your children, if needed. Keep the motivation for becoming a survivor, by remembering that your abuser will blame you for things that you are not doing like: cheating and lying. Yet, the abuser is the one who is taking your power away while causing you pain by: lying, and/or cheating.

I Don’t Deserve This

Mind games are the hardest part of the recovery as a survivor because you are stuck on trying to understand what happened? You are asking yourself, why did this person that you adore, so damn mean to you. They convince you that you deserve to be put down for your weight or whatever they think is bad or wrong with you. The abusive partner will place blame on you, because they have to make you the bad guy in every situation.

Focus On Fixing Yourself

However, why lay around wondering why you are not good enough for someone to care and love without the abuse or pain? Instead, start working on your self-esteem, by fixing the things that make you sad in your everyday life. Always focus on becoming a better version of yourself each new day and soon you will have the strength to walk away from the abuse. The survivor truly has a broken mind and spirit that causes depression and sadness in a person, which can lead to some really bad choices.

Planning a Safe Exit

The survivor of any type of abuse will mostly likely believe the abuser’s main lie, because they are groomed and controlled by their emotions. An abuser tends to isolate the victim during the relationship, so they gain their trust and cause issues with everyone else in the victim’s life. They may start conflict with the victim’s family and friends, which causes the victim to lose those personal connections. Survivor will reconnect with family and friends to create an exit plan, which will provide a safe way to leave.

Keep Moving Forward  

Get help and counseling now, because you are beautiful and your abuser did not care about you or your feelings. The abuser began tearing you down, taking your power, and breaking your spirit, as well as messing with your mind. You are a survivor, so hold your head up and take back your power by building your life without this person in it. Make sure you tell them to kick rocks and never allow them to return under any circumstance.

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Chase Recovery Like You Chased That Drug


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Unfortunately, you will be dealing with powerful and painful emotions as you walk on the journey toward recovery and freedom from the chains of addictions. Feel free to look up support groups and communities online and offline, but find the support you will need to face the demon’s of addiction. Start chasing recovery like you chased the drug of your choice and learn all about your personal triggers that cause you to want to get high. Discover ways to avoid these triggers and ways to remove toxic people from your life.   

Each new step will challenge you on how to understand the spiral effects of your own bad choices have made in your life. However, you must also learn how your addictions are tempted and what causes you to feed your addictions. Does something or someone cause painful emotions which you hide when getting high? Masking your feelings with the drug of your choice is not the answer, but facing these feeling will cause you pain yet dealing with them will also allow you to find a sense of peace or closure about the problem. 

Freedom from addiction and breaking the chains actually will challenge you to become a new creature, who is powerless until you submit to your own personal higher power or God. Never give up fighting for your own recovery and choose life full of love as well as joy. Chasing recovery is the bravest thing you can do, yet you will find the strength you thought you didn’t have during this process. Be proud of each step and hold your head up high, while you do all chase a new life that starts with chasing recovery daily just like you chased the drug you couldn’t live without. 

Make new memories with your loved ones and get the help you need to stay sober. Stay motivated and inspired, while spreading your message of recovery and redemption to others. Chat with me and soon we will offer more support resources. 

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Forgiving Yourself and Others (A Devotional)


Written By, Crystal S Kauffman

Have you struggled with forgiving someone, who has hurt you or abused you? Do you find yourself thinking about it a lot lately? If so, this is normal to feel, whenever someone you trust has intentionally hurt you. However, you must find a way to give your hurt and pain to the Lord, for he will release you of the burden of guilt. Then, he will help you learn how to forgive those, who have victimized you or someone you love.

            The first memory verse is: Acts 3:19…“Repent therefore and be converted, that your sins may be blotted out, so that times of refreshing may come from the presence of the Lord.” (KJV)

            As you recite this verse, remember that you must confess all of your sins against God and others. Once you ask him to forgive you for all of your sins, he is just and will erase all of your sins immediately. For we must spend time, learning exactly what forgiveness truly is, because it can hinder your spiritual growth. Honestly, forgiveness is ceasing to be angry over unacceptable behaviors that have affected you.

            By forgiving someone, you are not giving them your permission to repeat the behaviors that hurt you. Instead, you should recognize the feelings that you feel, since these emotions are only going to cause you pain. Be honest and ask for the forgiveness of others, once you have evaluated your role in the entire situation. This way, you can free yourself, from the burden of bitterness and anger that can lead to depression.  

            The second memory verse is 1 John 1:9…“If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” (KJV)

            Recite this verse, as you begin your transitional journey from being a victim to becoming a survivor. No matter what has happened in the past, you can fully overcome its negative effect on your life. However, you must forgive others also, for the pain and anguish or their behaviors or actions to stop. But, by allowing the offender to receive mercy, you are becoming worthy of God’s complete forgiveness. 

            No longer will you receive condemnation, instead you will find peace that passes all understanding. In that moment, you will feel the burden of your guilt start melt away as the anguish disappears. Suddenly, all of your past iniquities will be washed away and fully forgotten by your heavenly father. Therefore, you will become a new creature in Christ, who is totally blameless and spotless before God.

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Time to Reprogram Your Mind


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By, Crystal S. Kauffman, Staff Writer

You must learn to reprogram your mind, whenever you are fighting to regain control of your life from active addiction. You must remember that you always attract the same energy that you give off to other people. If you are a negative person, then you will magnetically attract negative people in your life. However, when you change the way you think, you will begin to attract positive people in your life.

Many times, you have to walk away from the old friends, in order to make a new life for yourself. Don’t be afraid to change your surroundings, because you will find that better things are waiting for you, once you let go of the negative things in your mind and life that are holding you back. Changing your mindset will allow you to meet new people and land life changing opportunities, which can actually change your entire life.

You will find that being around positive people and thinking about positive things is so much easier than stressing or obsessing about the negative in your life. Create a journal and write down all the positive things in your life every single morning and night. Stay focused on those positive things in your life, in order to continue attracting positive things in your life.

If you begin to think negatively, stop and reprogram your mind immediately! Never let the intrusive negative thoughts overwhelm your mind, since these thoughts can cause you to relapse and you may not make it out of active addiction this time. Always look for the positive things in your life, because they will help you stay focus and give you countless reasons to love your life.

Positive attracts positive, but negative attracts negative. Always remember that!

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Build A Life That You Love


By, Crystal S. Kauffman

Changing your life can be extremely difficult with the many different temptations around you. Most of the time, you are far away from the temptation, but sometimes it can be right in your face. This temptation can actually be in the form of a person, who just happened to dropped by to visit you after months or years of not communicating.

Right then, you must decide how you will handle this blast from your past. Will you choose the easy way out, which is to give into temptation? However, you could also visit for a few moments and then politely excuse yourself from the nerve racking situation. Only, you can choose what you will do when you face certain daily temptations.

Be sure to keep your support system on speed dial, because giving in to temptation is not worth the amount of guilt that you will face after your relapse. Stay completely away from circumstances and situations that will challenge your strength, while adding new things that completely inspire you. Start by creating a life that makes it easier for you to remain sober, because you are doing things that you enjoy despite the degree of temptation.

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Caution: An Organized Life is Ahead!


By, Crystal S. Kaufman

In recovery programs, you will learn more about building a solid structure in your daily routine. Most people feel less anxiety whenever they are following a strict routine, which details exactly what they do each and every day. However, some patients like to wait and see what happens, but that is not a recommended practice when you are trying to become sober.

The idea planning their own life is actually difficult for an addict, who is used to waiting on whatever happens next. However, the greatest part of recovery is learning to create a schedule and sticking to it everyday. Depending on what type of cell phone you use; you will be able to find apps that can fit any need you have.You will find an appointment book, reminders, notepad, journal, and more under the App store on Apple or Google Play store on Android,

These amazing tools who will go a long way and help you plan out your day, week, and month. You can set reminders to make phone calls, take medicine, appointment or meetings, and anything else you may need reminding about. With a little bit of help, you can become a better planner which will help you stay focused.

Becoming more organized will help you love yourself, because you will no longer feel like a failure. Change the way you see yourself and you will also change the way others see you as well. Learn all the ways you can organize your life, since only you can change you! Don’t forget to always start your day out by opening up your appointment organizer or your calendar application. You will never worry about missing anything again, as long as you always write down your appointment details or take notes.

Start Organizing Now!

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Be True To Yourself!


By, Crystal S Kauffman

Never allow someone to tear you down or talk down to you, due to the mistakes you have made in the past or even recently. If you have tried to make amends, then you have done your part and you must let the situation go. Nothing you will do can change the outcome, unless the person agrees to forgive you for your transgressions. Stand tall and walk proud, because you are no longer chained to your addiction and you are fighting the good fight of sobriety.

There will be good days and really bad days ahead, but be true to your beliefs and to yourself…first above all else! You matter and you are loved, yet sometimes we lose the ability to see past our own mind which causes us to believe we are utterly alone. Thankfully, you are not alone in this fight and you have so many people ready to help you…whether in an online community or a local AA or NA support group.

Make new friends who are sober and walk away from the toxic so called friends and/or family who continue to use drugs. Above it all, be true to yourself and decide what your future will look like, since you are the captain of your beautiful ship called life. You may be bruised, broken, and shattered from the life you led before you put your addiction away. Take a moment to learn the lessons of your past and remember each lesson, as you guide your ship called LIFE into the future.

Start the healing process today; by leaning on your divine creator…no matter if you believe in God or a Higher Power! Never ever give up on yourself, because you deserve happiness and peace everyday of your life. Take time to heal yourself by talking to a counselor and be sure to check out your mental health as well. Keep your mind healthy and busy, while you learn to navigate the rough waters of sobriety.

If you have kids or a wife, please take time to yourself and this will help you become stronger and more adapt to handling the everyday stresses. If you need to enter a rehab center, please do this immediately so you can start the healing process now. Your family deserves to be safe with you and they do not need to be hurt because you are hurting. Be true to yourself and your family, by doing all that you can to stay sober while healing yourself.

Stay Strong!!!

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