Change is Hard, But it is Necessary!


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By, Crystal S. Kauffman

Many times in your life, you will need to evaluate the people who are in your life and their actual value to your life. You will need to ask yourself some important questions about their true character, before you hang out with them for even a moment.Remember, cut ties with any family and friends who are absolutely toxic to your recovery. However, some people are dangerous to your head and you need to know who they are.

These type of people will literally drain every ounce your joy and happiness, because they refuse to get help for their own mental issues. These people tend to be negative and mean, especially when you have good news Unfortunately, they will make you feel like you cannot do nothing right, because they will say negative things about you to your face. The disrespect is constant and tiresome, but you try to overlook these negative qualities because you love them.

Honestly, the pain of letting go, actually hurts less than to stay and endure this type of mental abuse from anyone around you. You may think you need someone, but you don’t need to be bullied in today’s modern society. Honestly, there is cell phone applications for all that you may need: from shopping for groceries, buying restaurant dinners or fast food, clothes, household items, delivery, and rides as needed.

Never allow someone to talk to you that way and always look out for yourself, because no person will ever love you like you love yourself, Don’t give a negative person a single second of your time, because you will end up letting their words enter your head. Don’t spend a second too long, wondering what is wrong with you because of the things these type of people say to you. Truth is, there is nothing wrong with you, they just don’t respect or value you as a person,

So, with that said, identify these people immediately and stop allowing them to enter your life in any type of way. Ask yourself about how a person makes you feel, whenever they talk to you or when they are hanging with you? Only keep the positive people around you, because you will find encouragement and wisdom from them. Now, take inventory of your loved ones today and change the narrative of your story from a negative to positive.

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Control Your Own Life


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By, Crystal S. Kauffman

During recovery or even in everyday life, you are going to learn quickly that you will only able to control your own situations and circumstances. Honestly, you cannot control the way anyone else chooses to treat you. You can choose to stay away from any person, who hurts you and does not change their behavior once you have discussed the issue. Save your energy and stay away from the craziness, while focusing on the positive things in your life that make you happy.

Controlling when people come to your home, work, or other places that you go can keep your anxiety level down. However, you can also tell visitors to text or call you before a visit, so you can decide if you want to actually have a visitor over at that time. Sometimes, you may just want to be alone because you feel grouchy and full of anxiety. Setting rules with your visitors will help you regain control over your life, while you focus on healing and meditation.

Furthermore, talk to a mentor on how to control your finances if you need help, because you will need to pay rent and electricity in a stable home. You may also have to pay for water, propane, and/or other necessities inside your home. Learning to control your finances will make you proud and give you a sense of freedom that is amazing after dealing with addiction. Therefore, take control of your finances and your life, so you can find the peace and happiness that you long for everyday.

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Build A Life That You Love


By, Crystal S. Kauffman

Changing your life can be extremely difficult with the many different temptations around you. Most of the time, you are far away from the temptation, but sometimes it can be right in your face. This temptation can actually be in the form of a person, who just happened to dropped by to visit you after months or years of not communicating.

Right then, you must decide how you will handle this blast from your past. Will you choose the easy way out, which is to give into temptation? However, you could also visit for a few moments and then politely excuse yourself from the nerve racking situation. Only, you can choose what you will do when you face certain daily temptations.

Be sure to keep your support system on speed dial, because giving in to temptation is not worth the amount of guilt that you will face after your relapse. Stay completely away from circumstances and situations that will challenge your strength, while adding new things that completely inspire you. Start by creating a life that makes it easier for you to remain sober, because you are doing things that you enjoy despite the degree of temptation.

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Hobbies Are Vital…


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By, Crystal S. Kauffman

There are other things to do to take your mind off things. You need to find people who enjoy the same hobbies that you do. However, you could also learn new obvious that your new friends like.

There are things like fishing, boating, bowling, mudding, racing, horseback riding, and so much more. Look for new things to do, instead of sitting at home and staying stuck inside your own head.

You can find things that do not include other people or a lot of money. However, you may find something that may interest you need to take time to explore new things you and your friends that you have made since you turned your life around.

Never allow anyone to make you feel like there is nothing to do now that you are sober and in recovery. A new life has just begun for you and you should explore new hobbies and friends who live a clean life.

You can make friends at local AA or NA groups, as well as local online groups. Don’t give up on making new friends or new hobbies, just because you’re having a setback at the moment.

Take time to learn from every setback and every new obstacle that you may encounter on your journey. You have the power to change your life, once you’re beaten your demons and have entered recovery.

Look around online for new forms of exercise like: CrossFit, yoga, Pilates, and martial arts to name a few. This new routine of exercising will help you avoid gaining weight once you slay your demons and become sober. Furthermore, Stress can also be managed by creating a regular release system through exercise or new hobbies.

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This is Personal, Please Read and Pray…Maybe Help?


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To All My Friends,

I need my friends and prayer warriors to help me lift up my spiritual mentor aka “Preacherman” Rev. Danny Williams Sr. and his Wife “Mama” Michelle Williams in continuous prayer. Both Danny and Michelle were admitted to the hospital for serious medical issues and are both having appropriate test ran to find out the cause of their medical issues. Danny Williams is the Pastor of Peytona Southern Baptist Church in West Virginia.

I have known this man and his wife since I was a child and he attended the same church I did. He also worked with my momma in a steel mill and they were all really good friends. Thanks to the power of Facebook we reconnected, which led to many wonderful changes in my life. I am proud to call this man my spiritual mentor, but right now Danny and his wife need help in a big way with prayers for each of their health and a they need a financial miracle as well.

Due to Danny’s health, he cannot work until the doctor releases him and he is the only income the family has. So, if you can also pray for a financial miracle for this beautiful loving family that’s been together for 32 years now and this separation is hard on both of them. Mama Michelle is very sick with lung disease and has been on oxygen for ten years now. The family is in need of financial help with medications and food, as well is any past due bills that won’t wait.

I am asking everyone to pray for this couple, but I am also asking for anyone who may want to give a love offering of any amount, which will help this loving family during this health crisis that they are facing this morning and in the near future. You may contact Reverend Danny Williams Personally by Cell Phone or Email that is included at the bottom of this post. The church address is provided, if you would like to mail in a card and/or your love offering to the family.

Please consider helping this family as they have helped so many through the years like my family and I during my childhood. I am proud to call Danny my spiritual advisor, as he has helped me slay some pretty big demons in my own life. Even if you cannot help, please share this post and stop and say a pray or send healing energies to my closest friends.

Thank in advance for any help you may offer and thank you for taking the time to read my plea during your busy day! Thank you also from Rev. Danny And his wife Michelle and their family

 

The Church’s Address:

Rev. Danny Williams Sr. (Love Offering)

C/O

Peytona Southern Baptist Church

168 Ferrell

 Julian, WV, 25529

 

To Make a Love Offering Directly to Rev. Danny Williams Sr.:

Danny’s Contact # (304) 941 4930

Email is #revdan90@yahoo.com

 

To Send a Love Offering via PayPal:

Michelle Williams: michellepzbiz@yahoo.com

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No Matter What…Love Yourself!


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So many times, people call you selfish or greedy when you try to look out for yourself. However, the first step to loving yourself is finally learning to think about yourself and your needs above all others. Anyone who is above the age of eighteen can look out for themselves. Everybody wants something from you and before you know it, you are the one who is drained and depressed. Stop giving them the power to hurt you, by making them take responsibility for their own self.

Take time to make yourself happy, by choosing to do what you want to do like: buy a new outfit, go on an outing, or indulge yourself by learning a fun new dance. I mean come on, if they are not children, then why should you give them the power to take away your happiness. Make time to caress your mind and your soul, as well as tickle your funny bone every time you get a chance. You’re not greedy; instead you are setting boundaries and letting people know exactly what you will take from them.

Yeah, you may be the bad guy for the day or week, but you will find a sense of peace once people know that they can no longer use you anymore. Honestly, every time you stand up to a person, you actually love yourself more with each line you draw in the sand. So, lift your voice and say, “NO” as many times as you have to, in order to gain a life that has peace and solitude from the craziness. Learn to love yourself, because no one will ever love you, if you don’t first find reasons to love yourself.

©2019, Crystal S. Kauffman

PS: I am not a Licensed Therapist! Based on Personal Experience.