Forgiving Yourself and Others (A Devotional)

Written By, Crystal S Kauffman

Have you struggled with forgiving someone, who has hurt you or abused you? Do you find yourself thinking about it a lot lately? If so, this is normal to feel, whenever someone you trust has intentionally hurt you. However, you must find a way to give your hurt and pain to the Lord, for he will release you of the burden of guilt. Then, he will help you learn how to forgive those, who have victimized you or someone you love.

            The first memory verse is: Acts 3:19…“Repent therefore and be converted, that your sins may be blotted out, so that times of refreshing may come from the presence of the Lord.” (KJV)

            As you recite this verse, remember that you must confess all of your sins against God and others. Once you ask him to forgive you for all of your sins, he is just and will erase all of your sins immediately. For we must spend time, learning exactly what forgiveness truly is, because it can hinder your spiritual growth. Honestly, forgiveness is ceasing to be angry over unacceptable behaviors that have affected you.

            By forgiving someone, you are not giving them your permission to repeat the behaviors that hurt you. Instead, you should recognize the feelings that you feel, since these emotions are only going to cause you pain. Be honest and ask for the forgiveness of others, once you have evaluated your role in the entire situation. This way, you can free yourself, from the burden of bitterness and anger that can lead to depression.  

            The second memory verse is 1 John 1:9…“If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” (KJV)

            Recite this verse, as you begin your transitional journey from being a victim to becoming a survivor. No matter what has happened in the past, you can fully overcome its negative effect on your life. However, you must forgive others also, for the pain and anguish or their behaviors or actions to stop. But, by allowing the offender to receive mercy, you are becoming worthy of God’s complete forgiveness. 

            No longer will you receive condemnation, instead you will find peace that passes all understanding. In that moment, you will feel the burden of your guilt start melt away as the anguish disappears. Suddenly, all of your past iniquities will be washed away and fully forgotten by your heavenly father. Therefore, you will become a new creature in Christ, who is totally blameless and spotless before God.

Copyrighted, 2014

Don’t Ring That Bell

My Uncle once told me that, “Sometimes our words ring a bell when we speak them out loud!”

An unbearable amount of pain can come from someone words, especially when they can literally cut a person’s heart to pieces. Sometimes, people are dealing with things that you may not know about, so be kind when you speak. Lately, I have been trying to watch my own mouth and not say mean things to anyone, since I have been trying to get right with God. However, some days I fail too and my anger erupts like a volcano and I am saying stuff I completely regret.

Do not say something if you don’t mean it, since not everyone will forgive you for the mean things you have said. Everyone can be very mean with their words, but you must change the way you react when you are angry at a person. Try to be quiet and say a prayer, whenever someone seems to be pushing all the right buttons and your anger is swelling. Take a deep breath or listen to your favorite music, which may help you calm down.

Don’t say something that you cannot take back, just because you are angry and someone is relentless and is constantly pushing you to your limit. The anger swells like the lava in a volcano and before long you are spewing venom from your lips. Instead, offer a prayer of forgiveness and try to get away from the person who brings the contempt out of you. Honestly, don’t let your anger cause you to say things that you will one day end up regretting for the rest of your life.

I always try to remember what my Uncle always said when he was alive, “Don’t Ring That Bell, Christy!”

©2019, Crystal S. Kauffman

PS: I am not a Licensed Therapist! Based on Personal Experience

Finding Comfort through God

Finding Comfort through God

Finding Comfort through God

Sometimes we may feel alone in our daily walk through life, but we should not feel this way with Jesus in our heart. Thankfully, God will send the Holy Spirit to comfort us, whenever we may need to be comforted due to life’s troubles or trials. Our Heavenly Father gives us the fellowship with those, who we meet at church and school. However, we must be able to spiritually discern whether someone will be a comfort to us or a bad influence on us.

The first memory verse is: 1 Thessalonians 4:18-“Wherefore comfort one another with these words.”

Whenever we are need of comfort or relief from something which is causing us to suffer or stress in our daily lives. Unfortunately, we tend to hang on to our doubt and misery, instead of seeking comfort through our fellowship with God. The pain we feel about the situation we are facing can cause us to question our Heavenly Father’s ability to console us. Through Jesus Christ, you have a direct line to God, which can help you find the comfort that you may need.

However, by reading the Holy Bible or God’s Word, we can find ways to strengthen our faith in God’s ability to help us in any situation. Throughout your daily walk with God, you will find encouragement and freedom from the pain you have been feeling for so long. Additionally, you can discuss your problems or troubles with someone you trust at church like your pastor. Thankfully, God gives us fellowship with other Christians through church, who may be able to help us locate a different perspective to the issue that we face.

The second memory verse is: 2 Thessalonians 2:17“Comfort your hearts, and stablish you in every good word and work.

Put our faith and trust in God, because doesn’t want us to feel alone or depressed about the trials that we will face each day. We will find consolation and contentment throughout our walk with his son Jesus Christ. Our Heavenly Father doesn’t want us to feel abandoned or suffer needlessly, because he loves and cherishes all of his children. We must demonstrate the faith we have in God and hand over our burdens to him each day.

Leaving our burdens with God can be difficult, because we always want to try and solve our problems and issues by ourselves. However, we must learn to trust God, in order to receive the comfort he has promised us throughout the Holy Bible. Sometimes, whenever we are facing a fierce storm in our lives, we must stand firm in your faith. Therefore, start allowing God to comfort you, whenever you feel overwhelmed by the trials you may be facing.