A Family’s Struggle with Hoarding


hoarding“Living with a hoarder or someone who piles stuff in boxes, can affect your whole life and can be very overwhelming for someone with your physiological conditions.” Doctor Tater stated right before their counseling session was over

 

“I know, but at this time I cannot move out or away from the home, because of my mother. She is in a wheelchair. Over last four years, I have discovered that she cannot live alone and she has no one else to depend on. My mother is very gullible and someone would hurt her in some way or another.” Mandy stated in despair. Mandy loved her mom, she gets tired of the constant arguing between her and her mother.

 

“We will need to work on your triggers or things the make you angry with her, so you can learn to tune her out. I am giving you several medications, which you are to take at breakfast and before bed. You can start them immediately, but I want to see you back in two weeks.”

 

Whenever Dolly begins to argue with Mandy, generally Mandy will be the first to walk away and try to get her mind on something else. She will read a book, listen to audio books, write something on the computer, listen to music, or watch TV. Lately, Mandy has been helping her mother Molly, move her boxes around, so she can go through them and get rid of more junk.

 

Well, just recently Mandy found out that her mother hasn’t been sleeping well, which makes her very grumpy toward Mandy every day. Kyle is Mandy’s husband and he is the only person besides Mandy, who will help Dolly with things she wants done. However, if Kyle fixes something like a wall, Dolly’s wheelchair puts holes all in it.

 

Mandy and Kyle gave up everything they owned, in order to come save the house from the City of Jacksonville, Florida. Now, Mandy finds herself daily wondering, why she came back to save the house and keep her mother in it. She knows that her mother is going to hoard stuff, but Mandy cannot stand tripping over her mother’s stuff.

 

To put it plain and simple, Dolly has probably over fifty or more boxes stack up full of a bunch of stuff the needs to be thrown away. However, Kyle and Mandy have slowly cleaned out each room with her boxes in it and made it rooms that they can all use. Now, Dolly has moved to a living room and her boxes, what with her, so far as she is made of dent in cleaning the boxes out.

 

Mandy and Kyle believes that she is an unappreciative, dictator, bully, and very disrespectful to them. Furthermore, Mandy will always love her mother, but she prays everyday that her mother will have a better her attitude toward her. Therefore, maybe kindness and love from Mandy and Kyle, Dolly will grow out of what she’s learned from her own parents and she will learn to de-clutter her own life.

 

 

(2014, Crystal S. Kauffman)

 

 

Time Changes Yet Things Remain The Same


My son and I spending the day together.

Randa and Zack My son and I spending the day together.

Recently, my life has been changing in many ways that have made me assess my own life. A few of my best friends have moved to other states, which made me a little sad at first. However, we have technology like Facebook and cell-phones to keep in touch. Then, my daughter graduated from high school and has an apartment in a nearby city. She lives with one of her best friends, whom I love like my own daughter.

She has landed her first job and is now looking into getting her own transportation, which makes me so proud of her. She has been dating her boyfriend for over a year now. He is a Christian and I love him, as his is my own son. They have both made a vow to wait until they are married before having sex. I am so proud of them both!

Next, another change came knocking, my son moved to North Dakota with his father and his step-mother to start a whole new adventure in his life at almost 15 years-old. Well, at first, I took these changes pretty hard!

Now, I am embracing them in a positive way, instead of being negative. I am spending time every week with my daughter and her roommate. Additionally, I am dog-sitting their sweet puppies, until they can come up with their pet deposit they need and falling in love at the same time.

I talk to my son multiple times a day, texting, and picture messaging each other. So, I have learned that even though we live in different states or cities, we can still keep our relationships alive and growing stronger.

Changes are a part of life as a friend or a parent, but thanks to technology we can stay close to those we love and share our lives. Honestly, I am excited to see what this new chapter of my life will hold! Maybe now, I can finish my book and get published or land a job in the business communications field.

Only God knows what doors will open for me and what friends will walk beside me next. He also knows my relationships will grow in the future and how my life will change further. Currently, I am happy that my husband and I have more quality time together, since things have changed..