Forgiving Yourself and Others (A Devotional)

Written By, Crystal S Kauffman

Have you struggled with forgiving someone, who has hurt you or abused you? Do you find yourself thinking about it a lot lately? If so, this is normal to feel, whenever someone you trust has intentionally hurt you. However, you must find a way to give your hurt and pain to the Lord, for he will release you of the burden of guilt. Then, he will help you learn how to forgive those, who have victimized you or someone you love.

            The first memory verse is: Acts 3:19…“Repent therefore and be converted, that your sins may be blotted out, so that times of refreshing may come from the presence of the Lord.” (KJV)

            As you recite this verse, remember that you must confess all of your sins against God and others. Once you ask him to forgive you for all of your sins, he is just and will erase all of your sins immediately. For we must spend time, learning exactly what forgiveness truly is, because it can hinder your spiritual growth. Honestly, forgiveness is ceasing to be angry over unacceptable behaviors that have affected you.

            By forgiving someone, you are not giving them your permission to repeat the behaviors that hurt you. Instead, you should recognize the feelings that you feel, since these emotions are only going to cause you pain. Be honest and ask for the forgiveness of others, once you have evaluated your role in the entire situation. This way, you can free yourself, from the burden of bitterness and anger that can lead to depression.  

            The second memory verse is 1 John 1:9…“If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” (KJV)

            Recite this verse, as you begin your transitional journey from being a victim to becoming a survivor. No matter what has happened in the past, you can fully overcome its negative effect on your life. However, you must forgive others also, for the pain and anguish or their behaviors or actions to stop. But, by allowing the offender to receive mercy, you are becoming worthy of God’s complete forgiveness. 

            No longer will you receive condemnation, instead you will find peace that passes all understanding. In that moment, you will feel the burden of your guilt start melt away as the anguish disappears. Suddenly, all of your past iniquities will be washed away and fully forgotten by your heavenly father. Therefore, you will become a new creature in Christ, who is totally blameless and spotless before God.

Copyrighted, 2014

Laugh at Cancer Support Community & Chat

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Have you been touched by cancer and you need to talk to someone? Come by our Facebook community and come chat with us.

We are here in case you need to just talk to someone! Come join us to show your support for our support community. We always need help and small gifts to pass out locally or do it in your own home town.

Help give people joy and smiles, as well as laughter.

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A Survivor’s Tale



Katherine Keys has been fighting Mesothelioma for 9 years. When she was first diagnosed doctors told her she had less than 2 years. Katherine refused to believe her time was limited and instead decided to fight the cancer. Katherine is convinced that it was her positive attitude and determination to win that has allowed her to survive against the odds.

 At first Katherine thought she had the flu. She was prescribed medication and painkillers but the pain persisted. When the pain was too much to take, Katherine went to the ER, it was there that she discovered she had cancer. Katherine was 49 years old when she was diagnosed with Stage 1 pleural Mesothelioma.

For treatment, Katherine had her right lung and the lining of the lung removed, a major surgical procedure called extrapleural pneumonectomy (EPP). After several months of recovery, Katherine began radiation treatments. She had treatments five times per week for several months. Although she had been scheduled for chemotherapy treatments, she was relieved to learn that she didn’t have to have them.

Upon completing her treatments, Katherine attended her regularly scheduled follow-up appointments. At first, they were monthly, then every two months, three months, six months…and now annually. Her follow-up appointments typically consistent of blood tests, a PET scan, x-rays and other tests to confirm that she is still cancer-free.
Katherine was also helped greatly by the Patient Advocates at Mesothelioma Lawyer Center. They were able to get her financial compensation which helped with her treatments and quality of life.

Today, Katherine feels blessed to be able to spend time with her family and share her story with other people living with mesothelioma. While she has been through a lot and is still challenged by physical pain and limitations after having a lung removed, Katherine sees every day as a gift. She hopes her story brings resilience and positivity to people living with mesothelioma.

Celebrating the End of Cancer

By, Theresa Wiza, Guest Blogger

©Theresa Wiza

©Theresa Wiza

Today, July 31, 2015, marks the final day of my relationship with breast cancer. You see, today, I just took my final chemo pill! Today I can say good-bye to cancer and everything related to cancer. It took six years of chemotherapy, surgery, radiation, and taking a chemo pill every day to get to where I am today.

Six years ago, in May of 2009, my mammogram showed no signs of cancer. By September, I had Stage II Invasive Ductal Carcinoma In Situ (DCIS). It took four short months for me to find a lump, quite by accident, that turned out to be cancerous. What if I had waited an entire year to get another mammogram?

Getting yearly mammograms doesn’t insure that you will never get cancer. You must perform self-exams – often – in order to catch breast cancer early. What followed the discovery of that lump was a journey filled with decisions about whether or not to have a mastectomy or a lumpectomy, about what type of chemo cocktail I would take, months of recovery, hair loss, and a myriad other reactions to the invading monster that took over my life.

The journey was long and arduous. Sometimes just getting out of bed was a struggle. I wanted to remember what I was experiencing, because I was told that my type of cancer had a high recurrence rate. If I ever got it again, I wanted to make decisions based on my previous experiences, and I wanted to remember the plethora of information I received. I wanted to remember the pain I endured with the sentinel node biopsy. So I wrote about my day to day battles and posted the articles about my journey on a web site that no longer exists.

After that web site disappeared, I compiled all of those articles into one article, and it now appears on one of my blogs – Diagnosis: Breast Cancer: Journal of a Woman Recently Diagnosed with Breast Cancer.

I’ve never run a marathon, but upon reaching this day, this final chemo pill-taking day, I feel triumphant. My journey is over. The final pill has been taken. I am strong. I won!

To celebrate this day, I am getting a tattoo with an upside-down breast cancer ribbon. The word, SURVIVOR, will be written on the inside of the ribbon. The reason I want the ribbon upside down is because I want the two pieces of the ribbon to be a butterfly’s antenna, under which and around the loop will appear butterfly wings. One of my favorite quotes is, “Just when the caterpillar thought the world was over, it became a butterfly.”

Cancer is like that. You can look upon it as a death sentence or you can look upon it as just another challenge to overcome. Along with challenges, these past 6 years have come with many changes. Some of my family members have gotten married. Three more babies were born into my family, and my father died. One of my grandsons developed and is currently being treated for bone cancer. So cancer hasn’t completely left my family. My grandson is now fighting his own battle, which he is already winning. He didn’t lose his leg!

I hope that whatever challenges you face, you will look upon them as caterpillars, so you can appreciate and welcome the day you soar as a butterfly!

“The world is moving to a magical place. Be part of the magic.” Theresa Wiza

Learning to Laugh the Cancer Blues Away on a Private Support Community


Jacksonville, FL/Feb. 5, 2014: A private support community has been created to help families who have been touched by cancer in anyway. The networking site has been created to allow patients, survivors, and families to meet other families facing the same devastating diagnosis. However, with the new blossoming friendships and the social networking in this private support community, families will learn how to cope with cancer’s touch.   

“The private support community will allow members to share their journey through cancer’s touch,” stated the Founder, Crystal S. Kauffman. She is a cervical cancer 2B survivor of ten years now and has kept the Laugh at Cancer Support Community alive and growing since 2004. She used the networking feature through Facebook to keep the community alive, after leaving in 2012. However, she recently decided to return to, in order to offer the private networking feature, which will make it easier for member’s to tell their story.

The networking feature will offer families: support, encouragement, and inspiration from volunteers or other members. As of Feb. 4th, 2014, Mrs. Kauffman reopened the private support community and is excited about its future potential.  Every new member will have the opportunity to meet new friends, volunteer in the community, or tell their story to other members. The private support community will allow member honor loved ones, start a discussion, join a group, or keep a daily blog.

In the future, she hopes the private support community will continue to grow, while raising awareness and celebrating the beauty of life. Mrs. Kauffman believes that laughter will help drive the cancer blues away. However, once the members begin networking with each other, friendships will begin to blossom into laughter and love for one another. Therefore, she would like to invite everyone to join us, especially those who have been touched by cancer or want to become a volunteer. 

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Laugh at Cancer Support Community has Reopened on Ning!


We Are Back!

I am trusting God and reopening the Laugh at Cancer Support Community at, due to request from Facebook for a private community. The support community will have a new web address and all are welcome to join us. Come join us is our mission to offer encouragement, laughter, inspiration, and support to families who need it.

If you were a member in our other support community or are currently a Facebook Page member, please join us at the PRIVATE support community and tell your story. You will meet other, who can be friends and encourage you in your journey.

Furthermore, if you are helping with the fight against cancer, come join us and tell others about your organization. You may create a group within our private community/network. This support community is a networking site for families touched by cancer whether…directly or indirectly! So come join us and help us make a difference by working together.

Volunteers Needed

I will need design volunteers, community volunteers, and help spreading the word about our new support community’s address.  Additionally, I need help gathering “Thinking of You” greeting cards by July 30th of each year for our Wings of Hope Project. Every year, I pass these out at cancer centers and nursing homes, because many patients don’t get visitors and it is nice to know someone cares. If you can help, please contact me, by phone 904-450-3560 or email

Donations Needed

Honestly, it will cost $30.00 every month and I will need to raise $30.00 by the 14th of each month. Even a little amount will help me to continue keeping this private network or support community open for families touched by this devastating disease. I will need help covering this cost each month, so if you would like to help us keep the community alive and growing. My PayPal email is and you can email me at that address for any other information you may need.

We are not a non-profit organization; instead we are a support community/network that cares about those families touched by cancer. If you are able to help in any way, I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart. First payment is due Feb. 14th, 2014. Come join us and let’s make a difference together, also contact me if you can volunteer in any way.