Parents Stop Breaking Your Teenager’s Spirit


teen dep. quoteParents stop berating and yelling at your teenager, because you are destroying your child’s self-esteem more harm. Don’t curse at your teenager, instead give the teenager respect and you will find that they will begin to respect you as well. Be clear in your communication when saying yes and no, this way you are not sending mixed signals to your teen. Sometimes, you have to step back as parent, while encouraging your teenager to practice working on their talents and gifts that God gave them.

Let them know that you love them just the way they are and that they do not have change anything. Stop having power struggles with your teenager and you will see a difference in the way that they will respond to you. Don’t call them degrading names or compare them to their father or their mother in a negative way, since this can make the teenager feel worthless. Never say negative things about their mother or father, whether absent or not.

This behavior by parents can cause the teenager to turn to drugs or alcohol abuse. Teenagers with low self-esteem will act out and self-medicate to escape the mental pain that they feel.  Unfortunately, one mistake can cause a landslide of issues like: teen pregnancy, drug use, trouble with the law, and other bad behavior. Don’t expect to see a change in your teenager’s behavior, until you begin to change the way that you respond to them.

Pray for your children and with your teenagers, while speaking blessings and positive things over them. Be sure to take them to a Bible believing church, which will help build the teenager’s character as they grow into an adult. However, to see a change in your teenager, you must first change yourself and realize that you were once a teenager yourself. Was life hard for you as a teenager and did you have power struggles with your parents as well?

Teenagers can become anyone that they want to become, yet they must work hard to achieve the goals that they have set for themselves. As a parent, you should be a cheerleader and the disciplinarian at the same time. Teenagers need boundaries that they can follow and they need immediate consequences whenever they step out of line. Therefore, take this time to change the way that you respond to your teenager’s achievements and misbehaviors.

 

 

Good Parenting Can Lead Teenagers to Make Positive Choices


My teenagers!

My teenagers!

 As a mother of two teenagers, I have learned that you should never berate or speak down to your children or teenagers. Instead, I encouraged both of my teenagers to strive for anything they wanted to do. My daughter and my son lived with their father and step-mom for various reasons, one being that they lived in a district with a better school system. My daughter wanted to join the Chorus and Color Guard, once she entered high school.

So, every weekend I proudly watched her practice spinning her flag, until she got her dance and spinning routine perfect. Additionally, I was blessed to her angelic voice as she sang her heart out to songs that she liked on the radio or computer. I reminded her every day how proud I was of her for chasing her dreams and making them a reality. However, her dreams came at a cost for me, because I didn’t get to see her as much throughout the school year.

We talked on the phone a lot, because I knew she was busy with school and trying to balance her new lifestyle out. My daughter just turned eighteen and has made good choices throughout her entire life. Now, she has a new job and a new apartment, which she shares with a wonderful roommate. My daughter and her boyfriend of a year have made the decision to wait for marriage to have sex, which made me so proud.

Recently, my teenage son just turned fifteen and he moved out of state with his father and step-mother. We stay in touch through texting, Skype, Facebook, and calling each other every night. We have special sign language, which we use on Skype to say that we love each other. Tonight, he surprised me by telling me that he was applying for a job, after he comes to visit me and other family members for Christmas and the New Year.

I encouraged him to apply for the job and to do the best job he can, yet I know I won’t be able to talk to him as much. He will be juggling family, school, homework, and his new job….If he is hired. I understand this, so I have chosen to make the most of every moment that I get to spend with him. My son is very respectful to me and he has always made good choices throughout his life as well.

My children were raised in church with their father and with me, which helped us guide them spiritually. Neither child has spoken a harsh word against me or their father, during their lifetime. Furthermore, they have never disrespected their step-parents, plus they love and adore both of their step-parents. Therefore, I feel each parent has made good choices, which has allowed our teenagers to make good choices for their own futures.