During recovery or even in everyday life, you are going to learn quickly that you will only able to control your own situations and circumstances. Honestly, you cannot control the way anyone else chooses to treat you. You can choose to stay away from any person, who hurts you and does not change their behavior once you have discussed the issue. Save your energy and stay away from the craziness, while focusing on the positive things in your life that make you happy.
Controlling when people come to your home, work, or other places that you go can keep your anxiety level down. However, you can also tell visitors to text or call you before a visit, so you can decide if you want to actually have a visitor over at that time. Sometimes, you may just want to be alone because you feel grouchy and full of anxiety. Setting rules with your visitors will help you regain control over your life, while you focus on healing and meditation.
Furthermore, talk to a mentor on how to control your finances if you need help, because you will need to pay rent and electricity in a stable home. You may also have to pay for water, propane, and/or other necessities inside your home. Learning to control your finances will make you proud and give you a sense of freedom that is amazing after dealing with addiction. Therefore, take control of your finances and your life, so you can find the peace and happiness that you long for everyday.
So many times, people call you selfish or greedy when you
try to look out for yourself. However, the first step to loving yourself is finally
learning to think about yourself and your needs above all others. Anyone who is
above the age of eighteen can look out for themselves. Everybody wants
something from you and before you know it, you are the one who is drained and
depressed. Stop giving them the power to hurt you, by making them take
responsibility for their own self.
Take time to make yourself happy, by choosing to do what you
want to do like: buy a new outfit, go on an outing, or indulge yourself by
learning a fun new dance. I mean come on, if they are not children, then why
should you give them the power to take away your happiness. Make time to caress
your mind and your soul, as well as tickle your funny bone every time you get a
chance. You’re not greedy; instead you are setting boundaries and letting
people know exactly what you will take from them.
Yeah, you may be the bad guy for the day or week, but you
will find a sense of peace once people know that they can no longer use you
anymore. Honestly, every time you stand up to a person, you actually love
yourself more with each line you draw in the sand. So, lift your voice and say,
“NO” as many times as you have to, in order to gain a life that has peace and
solitude from the craziness. Learn to love yourself, because no one will ever
love you, if you don’t first find reasons to love yourself.